1. Get the Whole System in the Room
2. Control What You Can; Let Go What You Can’t
3. Explore the “Whole Elephant”
4. Let People Be Responsible
5. Find Common Ground
6. Master the Art of Subgrouping
7. Make Friends With Anxiety
8. Get Used to Projections
9. Be a Dependable Authority
10. Learn to Say No If You Want Yes to Mean Something

These 10 principles are drawn from Marv Weisbord and Sandra Janoff’s book Don’t Just Do Something, Stand There!: Ten Principles for Leading Meetings That Matter.